HOW TO ASK AND SAY NO🔸 PRACTICE OF ASSERTIVENESS, CONSCIOUS VULNERABILITY, AND CONSENSUAL TOUCH.
Setting and maintaining your boundaries and expressing desires, as well as taming the fear of rejection or hurt - this is primarily a PRACTICE. Theory is important, but it is through practice in a safe environment, encountering various human energies, that you are able to build and deepen these skills.
I invite you to explore your own “yes” and “no”; to play in exercises - supporting the definition of your boundaries and expressing needs - based on the Wheel of Consent model by Dr. Betty Martin. The workshops consist of a theoretical part and practice. You will practice through conversation, tuning into your body's reactions, and touch. You will work in changing pairs to feel how your body reacts and how your boundaries and needs change depending on the person you are meeting at that moment.
🟡 8 reasons why it’s worth coming to these workshops:
🔹 You will learn the direct and indirect ways to increase the level of oxytocin in your body. You will discover what traps and possible unconscious manipulations one of them hides.
🔹 You will learn what the Wheel of Consent is and how to use it in everyday life. It can revolutionize your approach to thinking about boundaries. You will learn and practice each of its qualities: giving (serving), receiving, taking, and allowing.
🔹 You will experience the quality of conscious touch through a 3-minute game. Precisely defining for whom a given touch is intended allows you to enjoy it in a much more relaxed way.
🔹 Setting and maintaining your boundaries and expressing desires - this is primarily a PRACTICE. Theory is important, but it is practice in a safe environment that allows you to communicate your boundaries or needs more freely and confidently in everyday life.
🔹 You will learn to say no and accept refusal. You will learn how not to treat refusal as an act of rejection.
🔹 You will learn what to do to make your hands more sensitive. You will learn how to derive pleasure from the act of touching itself and discover the world through the tips of your fingers.
🔹 You will learn to read the signals your body sends you. You will feel the physical manifestations of your inner consent and inner resistance. Your YES and NO.
🔹 You will practice what is the most difficult for most of us: TAKING. You will experience that not only receiving touch from another person (as during a massage), but also actively taking can lead you to a state of bliss.
🔵 I invite you to a fascinating practical exploration. Discover what signals your body sends when responding to the boundaries and desires of others.
If you say YES without thinking, and then regret it.
🔸 If the word 'NO' doesn’t come out of your mouth.
🔸 If you find it hard to ask for what you need.
🔸 If you take without asking.
🔸 If you have a tendency to sacrifice yourself, 'because that's how it should be'.
🔸 If you feel responsible for the emotional state of others.
🔸 If you find it hard to connect with your desires.
🔸 If you don’t feel when you start to overstep your boundaries.
Come and learn simple techniques that can turn out to be a great 'Eureka!'. It transforms the perception of mutual connections: in family, in relationships, at work.
🟢 Knowing and respecting your own boundaries gives a sense of self-determination and autonomy, which leads to taking responsibility for your life and greater agency within it.
🟠 If you have concerns about this workshop because you feel fear of touch from people you don’t know – this is actually a paradoxically good indication to choose to attend this workshop. You have control over the quality, duration, and place of touch. You have control over whether it will even happen. Clear rules allow you to relax.
🟣 In this meeting, I will guide you into a world where you precisely express your desires. Because precisely defining 'FOR WHOM IS WHAT I DO' - both in a sexual exchange situation and in any life relationship - protects us and supports us in making choices that align with our feelings.
You have the right to desire and to disagree. You also have the right to negotiate before making a decision.
If you want less unconscious behavior in your relationships, if you desire to live a bit more maturely and in harmony with yourself, to engage in interactions based on clear discussions of situations, rather than through veiled, shadowy impulses - come and practice with us.
I wish to spread knowledge about this tool, as I have repeatedly seen how much this practice transforms relationships into more conscious, consensual - and thus more satisfying. How it allows us to protect ourselves when we need it. And how it gives us the courage to speak openly about our needs in relation to another person.
The practice of the Wheel of Consent also influences the deepening of our contact with our own body, builds trust in the signals it sends, and helps us recognize the value of our desires. It gifts us nourishing contact with another person and provides sensual pleasure.
This workshop is inspired by the Wheel of Consent model – Wheel of Consent® – created and developed by Dr. Betty Martin. I trained at the School of Consent, but I am not a certified facilitator. You can find more information at www.schoolofconsent.org.
The workshop is open to adults of all ages and all gender identities. You can come alone, in pairs, or with a group of friends. We will not be working with nudity or erotic energy.
Date and place: Satwa Yoga, Warsaw, October 13, 2024, Saturday, 10 AM - 7 PM.
Price: 485 PLN.
To participate, fill out the registration form and pay a deposit of 200 PLN: https://forms.gle/3NtVaRBHF1P7fVTa7.
For any questions, please direct them here:
Messenger at @love.courage.trust or SMS to: 608499730.
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Facilitator: Agata Kawecka / Love.Courage.Trust
I deal with somatic work with sexuality, disarming the body, and boundaries in practice. I encourage exploring and healing oneself by giving attention to forgotten and rejected places, by acknowledging one’s emotions, and finding the courage to express them. I support people on their path to restoring feeling, flow, and tenderness for themselves.
The foundation of my practice is multidimensional 1x1 bodywork sessions. I am fascinated by the power of attentive touch. I care for the body, touching with respect and attention – usually so rarely present in our daily lives. I assist people who are closed to touch in gradually opening up to its experience.
I also lead workshops that allow exploring boundaries in practice and classes and workshops for women who want to deepen their contact with their sexuality and bodily pleasure.
Come to me without concepts, with an open mind; let go of control, let go of shame, let go of beliefs – or at least have that intention.
I have gained experience and knowledge by participating in dozens of workshops, trainings, and meetings in the field of neotantra, body disarmament, and sexuality. Among my teachers are: Andrew Barnes, Shachar Caspi, Bruce Lyon, Michal Maayan Don, Dechen Dorje, Estera Saraswati, EASE, John Hawken, Dean Matuka, Agata Loewe, Patti Britton, Anand Rudra. For five years, I have been learning from Susanne Roursgaard [The Gaia Method] and assisting during her workshops focused on trauma work.
Information about my other events and 1x1 sessions can be found here: https://linktr.ee/love.courage.trust.